Why you should learn how to have sex with yourself
Why you should learn how to have sex with yourself. If you’ve never done it before, or have been perfectly happy with clitoral stimulation in your sex life, you may be wondering why in the world anyone would want to climax through digital penetration.
After all, science tells us that up to 80% of women have trouble having an orgasm through penetrative sex. The bottom line? A large majority of women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm.
If you want to try something different to pleasure yourself instead of just using your fingers, here’s a full guide on pillow humping and how to masturbate using just your pillow to get you warmed up to the act.
But, if you want to know how to pleasure yourself with your fingers, here are the most common reasons you should give this a go:
1. Curiosity
Probably the number one reason girls learn how to finger themselves is out of curiosity. We’re taught that this is the epicentre of sex. This is where the magic happens.
Just don’t be too disappointed that fireworks aren’t going off the first time you do it. Many women enjoy the feeling of being fingered, but many do not.
It’s all about personal preference, so get curious and find out what you like.
2. Preparation for sex
Did you ever have the one friend who just had to use a tampon instead of a pad because she was determined to get rid of her hymen before she had sex? This is common among teenage girls.
It goes along with the thought that fingering yourself will give you a better idea of what sex is going to feel like *which is not even close!*
And the hope that breaking the hymen before partner penetration will make sex more enjoyable.
3. Pleasure
Especially for those who have already experienced penetration, fingering yourself can add an extra element to masturbation. A lot of girls like the feeling of being “filled up” while they are stimulating their clit.
If we’re being honest, a toy or a penis does a much better job of this, but when in lieu, your warm fingers will do the trick.
What you’re looking for when learning how to have sex with yourself using your fingers
For those who have never fingered themselves before, you may have a couple of questions about the inside of your vagina.
Where is the G-spot? Does it exist? Here’s what you’re looking for when you enter the cave of wonders.
1. Find your G-spot
The G-spot is still a hot-button topic that has people asking, “Does this thing really exist?” Many girls and studies say the G-spot is just a myth.
Still, others insist this padded wall inside your vagina is the absolute pleasure zone. If you’re a believer, the G-spot is allegedly located 2-3 inches inside the vagina, on the wall closest to the stomach.
Loyal MD has a fantastic reference photo for finding the G-spot. This area should feel rougher and more rigid than other areas inside.
Some women feel this area becomes enlarged during arousal and becomes an orgasmic hotspot. But others feel nothing at all!
2. Find the clit
Most people don’t realize that the majority of the clit is found inside the body. So, if you’re looking for an orgasmic experience, use your fingers to locate the bottom half of your clit and start rubbing it with the same motions you would use on your top half.
3. Just explore
In the end, you don’t need a reason to finger yourself. Just explore!
The best way to find out what’s going to get you off is by exploring your body and seeing what feels good… and what should be avoided.
