15 Steps to Experience shaking orgasm
15 Steps to Experience shaking orgasm. Sex is great, no one’s denying that. But if you want to learn how to have or give your partner truly unique shaking orgasms, we have all the tips you need!
Who can have a shaking orgasm?
Shaking orgasms don’t discriminate between men and women; everyone can have one.
That’s because an intense, full-body, shaking orgasm unlike any you’ve had before isn’t achievable through a specific body part or technique. It’s solely reliant on the mood you’re in, the connection you have with your partner, and your ability to communicate what you like and don’t like sexually.
How to achieve a shaking orgasm
uch of it relies on your partner as well. You can be doing everything right, but if their mind is in a different place or they’re not feeling that sexual at the moment, it doesn’t matter what you do. So, take that into consideration.
And if you’re struggling to reach an orgasm, perhaps you don’t know enough about what your body likes or you aren’t in the right headspace for sex. So, when testing out these tips, keep that in mind. Sex is a two-way street.
1. Relax
The most important thing to remember here, whether you’re trying to have an orgasm or you’re trying to give your partner an orgasm, is to relax.
Nothing is going to happen if you just put pressure on yourself or your partner, and neither of you will actually enjoy yourselves.
So just sit back, do what feels right or what your partner says feels good, and go with the flow.
2. Remember, there are two of you
It’s easy to get bummed out when your partner doesn’t orgasm because you think it’s your fault. And if you were really looking forward to achieving that big O, but your partner isn’t making it happen for you, it can be easy to feel disappointed. But don’t be so hard on yourself. Your partner is going through their own experiences as well.
Maybe they had a hard day at work or a fight with a loved one. These outside situations can distract a person from being in the present and enjoying sex.
3. Build the sexual tension
One mistake many people make is not building up the sexual tension. Instead, since they’re excited, they just want to jump right into things. We completely understand, but remember, you’re not the only person involved.
Having a quickie is one thing, but for an orgasm, there needs to be a build-up of sexual tension. Whether it’s sexting a couple of hours before seeing each other or flirting heavily in public, these actions will create a build-up, and that’s what you want.
4. Don’t skip the foreplay
This is another thing people tend to skip over without realizing how important it is. You cannot skip foreplay. Again, having a quickie is completely different, but if you want to have or give your partner a shaking orgasm, then you need time.
Foreplay is what warms everyone up. It increases arousal for both parties and gets everything ready for the big act.
Foreplay can include anything from a sensual massage, to oral sex, so long as the sexual tension is electrifying the air.
5. Make noise
It can be kind of hard to get in the mindset to have or give a truly out-of-this-world orgasm if your head isn’t in it. One way to improve your mood and get your head in the game? Improving the ambiance!
If you’re moaning or talking dirty to your partner, it will put you more into a sex mind-frame than if you were just to go at it in a silent room. And when you’re more in the mood, you’re more likely to reach the finish line together, if you know what we mean.
6. Don’t force the moment
You want the shaking orgasm to happen, but you can’t force it to happen. If everything’s going well, and the mood is right, it will happen.
But, as we said, if your partner had a bad day or is stressed out, then they may not be able to relax fully. And putting additional pressure on them is definitely not going to help the situation. Take a step back and go with the flow.
7. Know that a shaking orgasm is mental
Remember how we just said you shouldn’t force the moment? Why do you think we said that? It’s because orgasms are purely mental. If you want your partner or yourself to orgasm, you need to be in the right mindset.
Building up sexual tension and including foreplay can help get both of you into the zone. You both need to be in a mental place where you can let go and enjoy the moment. Aside from foreplay, you can try to create a sensual ambiance with candles, music, and soft lighting.
8. You need to feel comfortable
If you want you and your partner to orgasm, then you need to feel comfortable. Of course, they should feel comfortable with you. But just how comfortable?
Can you talk about sex with your partner? If you’re not comfortable, then this could prevent you from really letting go. If you want to have an orgasm with your partner, focus on feeling comfortable in your own skin, as that will reduce your sexual anxiety.
9. Listen to your partner
You don’t need to ask your partner 100 questions to see if they’re enjoying what you’re doing. Instead, listen to their body. For example, if they’re moaning, grabbing onto the bed, or saying “yes, yes, yes,” it’s safe to say they like what you’re doing.
If there’s radio silence, then it’s time to switch things up. If you’re doing everything you can, but you’re still unsure, ask your partner what they like.
And while we’re on the topic, don’t be afraid to verbalize to your partner what you do or don’t like. Sex is, again, a two-way street, so if you want to achieve a shaking orgasm, you have to help them get you there.
10. Build up, then back down
Now, this is where it starts to get interesting. Porn has shaped the way we think about sex, maybe more than we think. In adult films, you usually see the actors cycle through positions like they’re going through a checklist on a time crunch.
But, to really unlock the secret to shaking orgasms, you need to learn how to slow down. There’s nothing wrong with lingering on a position or technique.
In fact, if you take your time with it, slowly get your partner to the brink of an orgasm, and then stop what you’re doing, you’re increasing your chances of giving them a full-body, shaking orgasm later.
Learn to slow down, your partner will appreciate it.
11. Focus on oral sex
When it comes to having an orgasm, whether your partner is a man or woman, both sexes are more likely to orgasm if they’ve had at least 15 minutes of oral sex.
Again, if it’s a quickie, you won’t have time for a long oral sex session, and that’s okay. But if you have the time, invest it in oral sex. It’ll pay off.
12. Combine sensations
There are many areas of the body that feel good. So, when you’re trying to make your partner orgasm, don’t just focus on one body part!
No matter who your partner is, there are many erogenous zones you can focus on, such as the g-spot, clitoris, anus, penis, or nipples.
And don’t be afraid to give your partner a helping hand. While they focus on one particular part of your body, you can use your hands to stimulate another part of your body. Sex is a joint effort, after all, and it will make the road to achieving a shaking orgasm even more pleasurable.
13. Use toys
But only if your partner agrees to it. There’s nothing more terrifying than having sex and suddenly having an unspoken toy in your butt.
Before breaking out the toys, make sure your partner is into trying them out. If so, experiment with the toys, testing the different speeds and pressure on your partner or yourself.
One thing to remember: you must communicate.
14. Masturbate in front of each other
This is actually a great way to understand what your partner likes and communicate your own sexual needs. Plus, it’s sexy.
Mutual masturbation is pretty naughty as neither one of you can touch the other, so it builds up sexual tension. But, aside from that, it also gives you the chance to see what your partner enjoys, and vice versa.
15. Don’t make this your goal
Your goal for the night shouldn’t be to make yourself or your partner orgasm. Once you place that goal above your head, you won’t be able to enjoy the experience. Sure, you may want your partner to orgasm, but let it go.
It may or may not happen. Either way, you’re going to enjoy the experience. The less pressure you put on yourself, the higher the chances it’ll happen.
